Last week, I blogged about Coming Out Like A Porn Star. For those of you who read my essay, you know it’s about coming out to my parents, among other things. For those of you who haven’t, well, that’s what it’s about.

This week, Tumblr questions about my folks:

It is unequivocally none of my business, but would you be willing to offer any insight regarding your family’s views on your career? I ask because I would imagine your university education sets you apart from the majority of your colleagues.

I am unsure what my university education has to do with my family’s views on my career, but it doesn’t set me apart as much as you think. Anyway, for the long-form version of this answer, read this. For the short form:

Yes, my parents know what I do, and we have talked about it at length. Of course, they would prefer that I was doing something else, but their primary concerns are my safety and happiness. And they know that I am safe and happy. They are amazing. My little brother, who just turned 18, probably knows, but we have not discussed it. My extended family on my Mom’s side all knows and is great about it. My extended family on my Dad’s side knows, and is less great, but tolerates it.

Awkward question. Assuming your dad or other family members occasionally watch porn how do they avoid accidentally coming across you either naked or otherwise “engaged”?

I have absolutely no idea if my Dad, or anyone else in my family, watches porn. Knowing my Dad, if he did watch porn, he doesn’t anymore, as his way to avoid seeing me. Or he only visits sites that I’m definitely not on. I don’t know. And I’m not gonna ask.



Coming Out Like A Porn Star is out!

Earlier this year, Jiz Lee (who I think is one of the awesome-est people in the world) asked me if I would like to submit an essay for their new book, Coming Out Like A Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy. Once I got over being starstruck, I agreed.

I’ve very proud of my essay, and you should read it. Really, the whole book is amazing. If are you a fan of pornography, and enjoy more than just cocks in assholes (i.e. you are reading my blog, so…), you’ll love it.

You can purchase it here or here.

I’d also love to hear your thoughts on it. Please feel free to write to me.

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